Assume good faith
[iamronen], I don’t disagree with you on depth of relationship – ask [Ben] about me fighting for the unMonastery in the trenches, side by side with him. I am just leaving for each individual member of the community to make the decision on what kind of relationship she wants. It is, after all, her project, and it can’t succeed without her behind it 110%. As for potential of abuse, if there is one thing I learned from starting and running online communities for over a decade (starting with mailing lists in the late 90s) is this: if you design for trolls, your users will be trolls. Instead, all serious practitioners in the field assume good faith and deal with abuse when and if it arises, on a case-by-case basis.
Plus, like St. Benedict (although with much less skill), we am trying to protocolize here. we are not so interested in deciding what to do as in enabling everyone in the community to do whatever she wants, with as little red tape as possible. Consensus decision can be slow, and gives nondoers a veto power I am not sure benefits either them or any other. So, we tried to build a strong pro-action ethos (“who does the work calls the shots” and all that), and that seemed to resonate with the community and to unlock certain common endeavors, like (you guessed it) lote3 itself.