Hello Edgeryders community,
It’s been a while since the last exchange. I’m really sad that I missed the Open Village Festival but got lost in life for a while and still having to struggle to keep my head above water. But I come here with some new insights and concepts that I would like to share with you all. I call it Rezonansboden, because it’s a beautiful German word that can be literally translated to resonance board. This thinking exercise is meant to open a dialogue and at the same time assort my own ideas.
Slow communication
I’ve always been fascinated by the romanticized idea of corresponding with philosophers from everywhere in the world through long and elaborated letters like Passolini and Calvino, Nietzsche and Wagner or Steinbeck. It’s often witty, sometimes moving and always honest. It’s a form of communication that has been lost through time mostly in favour of fast communication like facebook messenger or whatsapp. Don’t worry I will not start a tirade about how it was better in the old times and now Facebook corrupted the youth and nobody is thinking anymore. I’m 28 year old, am a decade on Facebook and before that almost 5 years on MSN and Myspace. I’m a product of this time.
But what made me thinking were the recent outlets of the inventor of the like button about the unstable society Facebook is creating throughout its medium (Figaro, Usbek&Rita). I don’t want to quite facebook immediately (I have no idea where to start), but I want to make it obsolete to use so I’m trying to fight the urge of communicating 24/7 through it by finding new (or old) communication methods. I already try to bring my most prolific messenger buddies to use telegram and try to have all work related discussions outside of the facebook bubble.
But now came the idea to bring the slow food principles to our way of communicating. Last week I started this by writing a long letter to a friend of my living in Zurich. We talk a lot through messenger but have that tendency to talk sporadically because of both our hectic lives. I turned the tables and proposed to her to start writing long letters and take the time for it:
‘’This exchange is meant to get its own flow, take your time, don’t rush into things like we all do at the moment in life. It’s meant do get more grounded with ourselves and the people that surround us. Use it as your ‘rezonansboden’.’’
Today I did the same but with a stranger. For a long time now I dream to write a book about the reason why the Iranian movies are so powerful in a cinematographic way. So what I did is just sending out a mail to a visual artist to open the discussion through correspondence and who knows in maybe ten or fifteen years I could write something interesting about it. These exchanges will be much more rewarding I think then the likes I get when I publish something, because they will be crafted by time and not be volatile.
Before you go to travel write a letter
That brings me to another dilemma I was fighting with in the last couple of months: my constantly itching urge to travel but my incapacity to slow travel at the moment. Slow travel means for me having a low as possible impact as a tourist on your destination and traveling the most green as possible. But in a world where flight tickets to Barcelona are cheaper than train ticket to the Belgian coast it is quite difficult to not fall for those opportunities.
Yes, we all are cosmopolite people that are conscious enough to not fall into tourist traps. I even gave myself the rule to give every travel a purpose: meet interesting entrepreneurs, discover new products for the shop, take part as a volunteer at a festival or exchange ideas with local writers. But there was still no real reason other than, hmm this look like a cool city, in the first place.
So when writing my first couple of correspondences I found myself in an interesting thought bubble. When creating long lasting trust relationships with people from around the globe a travel can become so much more meaningful at the moment you ‘consume’ it. This seems for me the only ethical possibility to still travel by plane if in all mean necessary. Doing it by train or other public transport and taking your time is of course still the best option.
Why I don’t understand apologies anymore
Finally a little side note around apologies. In the last couple of years I rewired some of my thinking reflexes to be more in line with the common principles. I try to bring every time something to the table without expecting anything else in return and if I don’t feel useful anymore or can’t be useful I take a step aside from the decision board.
Now lately I found myself in a conflict situation where apologies where asked and didn’t found it to be fair that apologies should be unilateral. First thing that popped in my head was: “He that is without sin among you, let him cast the first stone at her.” But this is in fact a wrong premise, blocking anybody to take a step forward. I didn’t want to use this to justify my wrongdoing; I just wanted a way where you learn more then only admitting the fact that you were wrong. You don’t build anything further but a fragile equilibrium between power struggles. Why don’t we change that in: “let’s acknowledge our own sin to learn together for a brighter future”?
With this I mean that any wrongdoing can only be remedied in a setting of forgiveness (thank you Hannah Arendt and The Truth And Reconciliation commission) This would make it possible to grow having a creation of dialogue instead of a one way apology that only creates a power struggle. We all sin so why don’t we make it a collective learning experience?
Voila these where my ruff ideas of the moment that I would love to share with you. I choose Edgeryders as the community to share it on because I find the exchanges on these pages always enriching. The final thing I would love is have the energy back to do my morning coffee routine. Anybody up for it in Brussels? One (or two coffees) ,between 8h30 and 10h, in the city center, a good topic and a nice exchange conversation.
Kind regard,
Yannick