Family life could be a myth.
Not because we are condemned to loneliness.
But because today’s jobs are designed not to let us enjoy enough free time. We do have some free time, don’t get me wrong. But we don’t have the time needed to build a family, the time needed to feel, create and support such a complex social and emotional structure…a family.
Do you really, but really think, that if you work 8 hours/day, need to run a household by yourself and deal with other thousands of daily life tasks, you can still be the perfect partner and/or parent?The truth is that you can’t.
Time management and stress control are both myths. So has become family life. Don’t look at TV or magazines. Think for yourself and count the number of free hours a day. You still have 3-4 free hours a day ? Ok, that’s great, but this time is barely enough for cooking, sleeping, eating and…(pretending to) love your partner and (pretending to) play with your child.
Being so tired and stressed, you don’t even it notice how badly you perform in human relationships.
A family is about love and creativity, but no one can afford being creative and affectionate after 8 hours of forced work…and yes, exploitation.
I know many people here will not agree with me and will defend the modern society. I admit there are many people who have both successful careers and ….families. Unfortunately, no one mentions how successful those families are.
Getting married and becoming a parent are relatively easy steps. But building a family is a totally different thing. It takes time and it takes a clear mind and an opened heart.
We are no longer in the position to offer the best of us to our families. We already gave everything to our employers. We are kind of worn out and empty, yet we still think we “should “ have a family, of course, a family that won’t ruin our “career”.
I don’t believe one can combine family life and professional work. Not today. We are not free to make the best choices for ourselves; we are only free to be aggressive and competitive at the office and then pretend to be happy and relaxed at home.