Thank you Nadia, moving post.
I'm not sure there's much I can say in response, death afterall being stripped for the most part from my own cultural vocabulary. But I wanted to share something Illich writes in Tools for Conviviality, that perhaps offers a route out... maybe..
"Radical monopoly exists where a major tool rules out natural competence. Radical monopoly imposes compulsory consumption and thereby restricts personal autonomy. It constitutes a special kind of social control because it is enforced by means of the imposed consumption of a standard product that only large institutions can provide.
The control of undertakers over burial shows how radical monopoly functions and how it differs from other forms of culturally defined behavior. A generation ago, in Mexico, only the Opening of the grave and the blessing of the dead body were performed by professionals: the gravedigger and the priest. A death in the family created various demands, all of which could be taken care of within the family. The wake, the funeral, and the dinner served to compose quarrels, to vent grief, and to remind each participant of the fatality of death and the value of life. Most of these were of a ritual nature and carefully prescribed-different from region to region. Recently, funeral homes were established in the major cities. At first undertakers had difficulty finding clients because even in large cities people still knew how to bury their dead. During the sixties the funeral homes obtained control over new cemeteries and began offering package deals, including the casket, church service, and embalming. Now legislation is being passed to make the mortician's ministrations compulsory. Once he gets hold of the body, the funeral director will have established a radical monopoly over burial, as medicine is at the point of establishing one over dying."
In today's community call, I made the suggestion that one approach to LOTE tracks, might be to write out short briefs for component elements that you'd like to see built upon during the weekend, this suits best the unMonastery track. The idea being; I can think of a ton of things that the unMonastery needs but no one is taking the lead on - within EdgeRyders there are many skilled facilitators that would likely be happy to facilitate an open ended discussion on these subjects, without having to give structure.
At LOTE1 Smari, scheduled a session called "can the internet build big things", a lot of people turned up, Smari didn't have anything other than the title to structure the session - but it turned into one of most fruitful sessions I attended at the conference. In the race to organisation LOTE3, we shouldn't over administrate, well placed concepts with collective momentum will be built in the moment, not prepped months in advance.
Perhaps 'Life and Death in the unMonastery' will be one of those kernals for discussion.