Last week, after 15 days of self-imposed quarantine (with a covid-test at the beginning of it), we had a Thanksgiving dinner with a colleague of my wife and her roommate.
It was the first time we were inside a closed space with other humans since March: it was surreal, natural, and a lot of good food and laugh.
It was also tiring and stressful, in a strange new-old way.
During the dinner we asked ourselves a lot of questions (I like to design games about it) and one thing that I shared was a discovery that I did in the last months: I learned to name my loneliness and to accept it as a companion of this times.
The day after I found myself face down in my bed, miserably considering my existence in the absence of humans.
I’m an extrovert and I had forgotten how good it was to enjoy a dinner (interactionss!!) and how much I was missing it, - I guess this also speaks to the resilience that everyone can develop - I think it was just a natural reaction but it made me realize that I haven’t develop strategies to not feel lonely.
I can see the wave coming, name it, but fighting back I’m still at loss.
Loneliness used to be an existential threat for our species, being social was key to survive in an environment that require high specialization when we don’t have none. We don’t smell scents like a dog, we don’t ear sounds like a bat and we are not suited with claws, venom, teeth or quills to attack or defend ourselves, we can just count on each other.
Back in the day being alone, an outcast, it means a death sentence.
This is not my case right now, but the primitive me is still very scared.
So here is a question for you all, lonely hearts our there, what is one technique, one thing that you do, to fight back or simply not feel lonely?
Is there a strategy that you’ve developed and crafted?
I would love to learn more and see if they work for me too!
Thanks for the help!
(by the way, writing this post - and knowing that someone will read and maybe relate - had already a very good influence on my day :))