Dear fellow participants of Fail - un#Fail at the end of this month in Brussels!
Get used to being asked questions :)
This is an attempt to find out what's happening in the "social soil" among us, the LOTE5 participants, already. And since someone has to start ... here we go.
Failure. Success. Wow, what a wide and rich topic.
My guess is, since you’re about to spend 3,5 days of your life in this area of inquiry, it touched something. You might be as intrigued as me, because something wants to be explored on an intellectual or emotional, collective or personal level. What we apparently share is an interest for failure (success?) and I assume that we also share a common interest in “let’s make more sense of this!”. I might as well be wrong, and that’s exactly what I’m trying to find out.
So, would you please let me know
Why are you coming to Brussels?
I can tell you my “why”. If you’re challenged by emotional content, leave this page NOW. Then better don’t read, just reply Don’t tell me I didn’t warn you.
I’m very excited to meet you all soon, but what the “why” brought up for me, hasn’t been an easy ride so far. As soon as I stepped into the topic of failure, my relationship to it got a lot clearer and it was not always pretty to face. I had not been aware how much of a chicken I was, how eager I was to avoid failing (or what I perceived as such).
One example: I teach a very efficient self-help method to release stress and other emotional baggage. Some years ago, I was asked by the manager of our local branch of a huge swedish clothing company to coach their team, so they could handle the daily stress in the store better. I was over the moon - and dead shit scared. Too scared. GODDAMNIT!!
When reflecting now on the topic of success vs. failure, I realized: This thing called failure, that many of us fear, but to a different degree, is what has kept me from doing lots of things in the past. Wasn’t this one of my “biggest” failures so far: letting the fear of it take control? I believe so.
This is what brings me to Brussels. I want to de-demonize the “F”, address it more directly and with others instead of within my isolated brain. Talk about it. Listening deeply to others and share the humanness behind the story of failure/success, find the questions that open up new spaces, look at the assumptions we hold individually and collectively and mold this thing called “failure” into another form. Rewrite the story of success and make more peace with this perceived threat. In the end, it’s my decision which story I live in, what failure means to me and how I let the meaning I give it affect my life.
That’s why I’m coming. Partly. It was, what caught my attention. Now I’m really happy that other topics I care about are being touched: Care, for example. I’m very interested in the topic of how to unfail “care”, since I work in this area, and I’m not on the edge, but far far off it. And the 3. “why” is that I want to have a blast with all of you
And why are you coming? In case you think you gotta soul strip now, too: naah! I just want to know what is “in the room” already. Partly because that’s an aspect of harvesting during the event. (Check the Documentation/Harvesting wiki out, it’s what the cool kids do!)
See you soon and have a nice weekend